When you go on a first date with someone, it’s natural to feel a little nervous. You want to make a good impression and you want the date to go well. So how do you go about achieving those aims and having a good time while you’re there, without constantly worrying about how it’s going?
Try these tips to make sure your first date is one to remember and not one you’d rather forget ever happened.
Hit the Right Note with Your Conversation Skills
You might not be the most talkative person in the world; maybe you’re a bit of a strong, silent type. But on a first date, being too quiet might give out signals that you’re not interested in her or perhaps that you don’t have anything interesting to say.
Be ready to answer questions she asks – about your work, your family and what you like to do in your free time. Monosyllabic answers could imply that you have something to hide. But don’t go overboard and hog the conversation; show an interest in her life and the work that she does. Pay attention to what she tells you so that she knows you’ve been listening, and the conversation should flow from there.
On a first date, it’s generally good advice to keep controversial views to yourself, and to avoid talking about money too much. If you find making lots of conversation difficult, it might be an idea to do something other than just go out for dinner. Book tickets for a concert or a play, and grab a bite afterwards, perhaps.
Think About Your Appearance
Guys have the better deal when it comes to getting dressed for a date – women have a much tougher set of choices on what to wear and how to have their hair. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t just turn up without taking a shower and having a shave. As for clothing, choose a simple outfit like dark jeans and a blazer which will work for almost any venue.
Remember that it’s not just about your grooming and clothing choices. Our body language sends out a lot of signals about how we are feeling and what we think of others. Generally, body language in men is pretty easy to read, so while it’s important to be yourself and act naturally, it’s also helpful to know what kind of signals your body language could be giving your date. For instance, making lots of eye contact while you talk to your date shows that you’re interested in her and in what she has to say. Crossing your arms while you talk, on the other hand, could give the impression that you’re feeling defensive and putting up a barrier between you.
Remember Your Manners
Most women will appreciate a man who knows how to be polite. Be a gentleman and open the door for her and if you’re going out for dinner, demonstrate that you have some decent table manners.
Offer to pay for dinner and if you’re on a budget, make sure you choose a restaurant you can afford without wincing if she decides to have a dessert! It’s not just about how you treat your date – be courteous to the waiters. If there’s a problem with the service, avoid making a big deal about it as this might give her a negative impression of you.
Perhaps most importantly, don’t get distracted by your phone. You want her to feel that your entire focus is on getting to know her and you certainly don’t want to give the impression that there’s another conversation going on that’s more important than the one you’re sharing.
There’s no guarantee that a first date will lead anywhere – you’ll ‘click’ with some people, you won’t with others. But if you can be open and honest about yourself and act naturally, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t make a good impression. And the more relaxed you can be, the more likely it is that you’ll both have a good time.